SAFETY ADVICE & TIPS

• Be on the lookout for strange behaviour or inconsistencies. Listen very carefully to your correspondent's words. The person may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you feel uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

• Safeguard your Anonymity. Never include your last name, personal Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your initial e-mails you exchange with other person.

 

• Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.

• Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any personal contact information once the date has taken place.

 

• Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.

• Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too.

 

• Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any potential date must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honourable, forthright behaviour. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way.

• Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly and inform us straight away.

 

• Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse.

• The alcohol factor.  Watch your alcohol intake, as well as your date's intake. You need to be clear-headed to make rational decisions should you need to. The last thing you want is the both of you passing out on the couches in the bar lounge.

 

• Think safety first and arrange to meet in a public place that is well lit and has a good number of people around. Try a cool, casual pizza joint, a laid-back café, or a popular java spot.  A little noise is good -- it saves you from those awkward quiet moments.

• Watch your drink.  Never, ever leave your drink unattended.  Even if you are getting a good vibe. If you do leave it, simply order a new one.

 

• Trust your gut feelings.  Get the impression your date's there for a one-night hook-up? Chances are, you're right.  We often talk ourselves out of warning signs, only to regret it later.   Some warning signs could be rudeness, inappropriate comments, touching, or you just have nothing in common. If you start to feel uncomfortable, make your way out of the date as respectfully as possible.

• The first minutes.  First impressions are everything. You're able to tell a lot by someone within the first few moments of interaction. How they talk, what they say, how they say it and their body language can speak volumes.  In the first 10 minutes, you can get a sense of whether the individual is kind, considerate, confident, self-centred, reactive, egocentric, or controlling.

 

• Don't expect too much.  Going in with expectations of meeting your soul mate or the man of your dreams can lead to disappointment. Easy connection is great about a first encounter. Sparks are rare.  Go into it with plans to have fun and let things happen naturally.

• Don't be a blind date hater.  Even if one blind date doesn't go as planned, don't ban them from your dating options.  We've all gone to bad movies, dinners, vacations, parties, job interviews, but it shouldn't keep us from trying for something better in the future. Blind dates should be no different.  You can't win the jackpot if you're not playing the game!

 

How to Service and ENJOY a Blind Date Myths & Facts

You may not agree, but it seems to me that blind dates are high on the list of things that everyone loves to hate. I  have just one question - why?

Apparently, there are a number of myths about blind dates that are ruining their reputation. If you're interested in exploding those myths and learning how to make blind dates productive and even enjoyable, this information is for you:

Myth:  Blind dates are silly because you can just as well meet someone spontaneously.
Fact:  Let's face it. If you're working full time, how many opportunities do you have to suddenly meet a potential dating partner? The majority of married couples will tell you: They did not meet at a club or in college.  Someone introduced them.  The sooner you accept that a blind date can be the most valuable tool in searching for your soul mate, the sooner your whole outlook on blind dates will take a positive turn - and so will your ability to utilize them.

Myth:  Your first impression on a blind date is usually correct.  Go with it.  
Fact:  The area where first impressions count least might just be blind dates.   Anyone can be nervous on a first date, or have had an awful day at work.  Be honest: Do you show who you really are inside on that first, blind date?  Well, neither does your date.   Instead, look at it as an icebreaker.  Don't make any decisions if they're based on mere impressions.   Just relax and enjoy the evening as much as possible. Don't let first impressions get in the way.

Myth:  If you don't click right away, then you aren't right for each other.
Fact:  Although many of us expect to click instantly with the person who is right for us, in reality that doesn't happen too often.  Instant connections are rare, and for most people they take several meetings to develop. So if you find that you have a few things in common, or some aspects of your date's personality appeals to you - that's enough to go out on a second date.

Myth:   If you don't feel physically attracted very early on, you never will.  
Fact:  Even though physical attraction is an obvious requisite for marriage, it does not necessarily come instantly.  If a man prefers women who are tall, dark and exotic looking, then when he goes out with a petite, blonde, blue-eyed woman it will take him another date or two to appreciate her looks no matter how beautiful she is.  The thing is that, when you begin to like a person for who they are, you find yourself appreciating their physical appearance, too.

 

So Remember!!!

• Always meet in a public place.
• Make prior arrangements of the location and even call the venue telling them of your plans - if they person you are meeting is genuine they wont mind you doing this.
• Make your own way to the meeting – Don’t accept a lift.
• Tell someone who, when and where you are meeting your correspondent - you could ask them to call you on your mobile (borrow one if you don’t have one) say 15 minutes into the date so if you do not feel safe you can make an excuse and leave right away.
• Do not give out your full name, address, telephone number, work address until you are confident about your correspondent.
• If you have any doubts whatsoever then don’t meet them and stop talking to them and inform us right away.  You are well within your rights to pull out of your date under these circumstances. See Terms & Conditions

Enjoy your dating experience and be safe!